3 Ways to Stay Positive While You Are Still Single

Are you feeling ‘singled’ out when most of your buddies have found their soulmates and have settled down for good? 

If you have been waiting for God’s will on your decision to marry, I would like to firstly commend you for the courage you have shown to stand up and represent His time where most have relied on their own choices. It is not the end of the world: in this post I give you 3 things to keep you positive during this season.

If you have been like me, waiting for a long time for that better-half who completes you and have, in the process, gotten frustrated because it doesn’t work the same way for you as it does for the others, then you my friend, need to take a rain check from God. You feel a part of you has probably just given up and are fed up of being the awe of every conversation (or the butt of every one of their jokes). Undoubtedly, it is tough especially for someone who has been anticipating the day of getting married and starting a family but can’t see the slightest sign of it so far.

Not even a cloud as small as a man’s hand! (If you didn’t get that, do read the story of Elijah in 1 Kings 18, its interesting)

Being in this season myself, the Holy Spirit revealed to me these 3 things that we must keep in mind whilst staying single to renew our hope in God:


Ask yourself: are you pursuing the one or preparing for the One?

Wondering what I meant by that?

Often times, we get carried away by intently looking out for the one (the life partner) and leave out on our efforts to have a good relationship with the One (Christ).

No one else can satisfy us as Christ does! 

Your priority should be pleasing the Lord in all things you do.  This is the mandate that we have been called for. If we sit around brooding without godly counsel then we must remind ourselves that Christ has to be the top priority in our lives; everything else can only come after that.

There are 2 added bonuses if you learn to do this: once you get married, you are still able to balance your marriage life because you have stable relationship with Christ. Marriages, can have their own issues and the only right way to resolve it is to have a Christ-centered life.

The other thing is that you don’t give any space for the devil to plant bitterness and dejection in your hearts that may play with your emotions. This helps us from backsliding.


It is one of the most dangerous and detrimental of all sins. I would like to also think of comparison as a form of idol worship. Why? Because when our eyes are not on God, everything else can be a snare for us.

“Why hasn’t God given me the life that my friend has?”

“They seem to have everything going smoothly, why is my life a mess?”

I agree its difficult for a person who has been suffering a great deal for a while to stay positive. But keeping in mind that each of us live a life that is unique to us just like how each of us have a unique set of fingerprints; God has predestined our purposes. Each of us have a unique mission to be fulfilled by the grace of God and we can only know this by praying and asking God about it.

May be the people around you may live lives of comfort and blessings but believing that God has something best in store for you and that He would never allow you to be humiliated in front of others is worth holding on to. This is the power of faith!

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Hebrews 11:1 King James Version (KJV)


We as humans, have an inborn tendency to want to hurry up on things. We like to be impatient and hastily receive our blessings from God’s hands. But the fruit of patience (Galatians 5:22) is how we learn to trust God and depend on Him entirely and not our own conscience.

There is a way that seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.

Proverbs 14:12 New King James Version (NKJV)

But some of you may tell me that you are in your thirties or forties and have been patiently waiting for God’s time…

What if I told you that in God’s ways, those who wait longer get the best of the best? Would you take the opportunity to trust in His goodness?

Besides, sometimes waiting does some amazing things to you:

  1. You grow
  2. You rediscover yourself
  3. You have better perspective on things
  4. You have a deeper spiritual growth rooted in Him rather than His blessings

If you feel God has singled you out, remember God is no one’s debtor (Romans 11:35). He sees that you are in need of a helper and He will act upon your petitions.

So till then, be different from the rest. Be set apart for God. And while you keep yourself busy for God, He will do a wonder in your life!

If you have a prayer request or a testimony to share, please email me to renewthymindblog@gmail.com or do mention it in the comment box below.

God bless!